Before my husband I and I got married we started with very little. He had a tiny studio apartment, and bought all his furniture on ebay or from second hand shops, he had a bunk bed, a wardrobe chest, a small couch (which he later gave back to the second hand shop) and a bar fridge, a table and chairs and a toaster. He was living simply and minimalist. I on the other hand was still living at home, and only owned a single bed, a bookshelf and a chest of draws.
I had a few trinkets, sewing stuff, books and my computers. I was borrowing my mum’s desk and had only a box of household goods that had been given to me over the years as a ‘glory box’. So we both began our married life with only a few things. When we got married we quickly got a big bed, washing machine, couch and fridge. Our house was pretty basic and simple to start with, and our kitchen was mostly made up of wedding gifts. We didn’t even have a tv. Dan started growing vegetables out on our back patio, we lived a simple life to start with.
Slowly we began to accumulate things, but it really started to accelerate when I fell pregnant our simple life slowly became a little more complex. It started with the decision to buy a house, a proper family home with another bedroom, extra living room and more kitchen/dining space, as well as a large backyard. We started buying baby things (I admit I enjoyed baby shopping a tad to much), another couch, a tv, a bigger fridge, a microwave, installed a fire place, extra desk, 2 more bookshelvs etc.. all things to fill our home and in our eye ‘do the right thing’ and provide our son with the things he needed, and to make our new lifestyle with a child easier. We then renovated the backyard to make it safer, and a better place to play and enjoy and extra storage, by putting in a large shed.
With Dan working 12 hour shifts, 6 days a week, and I spending most of my day cleaning, cooking and watering the plants. We have begun to realise we were serving our possessions, rather then them serving us. And this is the core of the minimalist movement. And why we want to work towards simplicity. Not that we are suddenly going to throw everything out, but rather start questioning things more, decide if the things we have are serving us, or just taking up space, cluttering our lives. Its about getting rid of the clutter, because the physical clutter, becomes mental clutter. We want to enjoy life, and one another as a family, not just serve the things we own, and continue to try and accumulate more. It’s a process, not a sudden change. Just a shift in thinking, although nothing new, just reverting back, before we got caught up. Slowing down.. taking time to take life in, and take pleasure in simple things. Strangely it is something I had already began to do before become aware of it. As I can no longer work much, I was already trying to find ways to reduce our cost of living and beat the big grocery stores, trying to make more things myself and spend more carefully, I had even started de-cluttering… its just time to take it up a notch.
It’s time to embrace the simple life, the slow life.
The aim is to lower our cost of living, spend more time together, get more creative and make more rather than buying, become more conscious about how we live, become thriftier, let go of this we hang onto but never use, embrace ‘less is more’.
For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also
Some great posts/blogs to read on the topic of living simply-